The woman who became pregnant from anal sex: Doctor describes incredible case of patient whose womb was connected to her rectum

• Dr Brian Steixner is a urologist at the Jersey Urology Group, Atlantic City
• Encountered woman who conceived from anal sex while at medical school
• She was born with a rare defect meaning her rectum, urethra and vagina failed to separate into different tubes and so she only had one opening
• Had surgery to correct the defect but the operation went wrong
• Her womb was now attached to her rectum she could conceive via anal sex

There's no doubt that sex education seeks to bust myths like ‘you can’t get pregnant standing up’ or ‘you can’t get pregnant on your period’.

But until now, the playground cry of ‘you can’t get pregnant through anal sex’ was assumed to be a biological truth.

Now, however, a doctor has made the astonishing claim that he treated a woman who conceived through anal sex.

Dr Brian Steixner, a urologist at the Jersey Urology Group in Atlantic City, said he saw the unthinkable phenomenon when he was a medical student, Men's Health reports.

At the time, he was part of a team caring for a woman born with a rare medical condition called ‘cloacal malformation'.

This occurs when, very early in pregnancy, the rectum, urethra and vagina fail to separate into different tubes.

This means urine and faeces drain into a common channel which opens in the perineum – where the anus is normally located - according to Great Ormond Street Hospital.

It only occurs in one in 50,000 births - and is normally treated by surgery to create three separate channels as well as two openings - an anus a vagina.

When she was younger, the woman had such an operation, but the procedure went wrong.

Either through a mistake by surgeons - or perhaps because of the way her body reacted to the trauma of the surgery - a fistula formed.

This is an abnormal connection between organs – and in her case it meant her womb became connected to her rectum.

Every month, during menstruation she bled from her anus – but her vagina was a dead-end.

Dr Steixner told Men’s Health the woman reported she only had anal sex before getting pregnant - presumably because it was not possible to be penetrated in the vagina.

‘After doing a whole bunch of X-rays, we determined that she got pregnant from having anal sex,' he told Men's Health journalists.

And in a later interview with its sister magazine Women’s Health, he added: ‘It blew my mind.’
Doctors decided any form of natural childbirth would be unsafe and therefore opted to perform a C-section on the patient.

Despite never seeing the patient again, Dr Steixner maintains the anecdote his ‘greatest story ever’.
‘They totally lied to us in 9th grade health class,’ he said.

Jaws drop as topless duo frolic in the sun

The topless girls were holidaying at Pulau Sulug totally oblivious to local sensitivities.

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KOTA KINABALU: It was a sight not many tourists in this more conservative part of the world are used to, so many found themselves genuinely shocked to see two young foreign tourists frolicking topless in the sun at Pulau Sulug.

With children gaping at them, other beach-goers decided to make the most of the experience by recording the young women’s antics, the Malaysian Digest reported.

One tourist, Mardiana Abdul Ezam 33, said she saw the girls after her son told her about them. It was around 9am Sunday.

“At first, I thought my son was just joking when he told me that he saw women playing on the beach nearby without wearing clothes.

“I then looked in the direction he pointed and was surprised to find out what he said to me was true,” she told a local Malay daily, yesterday.

It is not known at this point if the authorities, namely Taman-Taman Sabah, which manages the beach, was able to talk to the young women and advise them to cover up.

Undergrad arrested for indecent recordings

Police have yet to establish if the lewd act was for personal use or to be uploaded to a pornographic site.

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KUANTAN: Police have detained an undergraduate student who had a fetish for recording women urinating when a closed-circuit television (CCTV)

in the form of a clothes hook on the toilet door of a secondary school in Kuala Terla near Cameron Highlands was uncovered last Thursday.

The suspect’s actions were discovered by a victim, 30, who was the school canteen operator, at 8 am last Thursday when she wanted to use the toilet.

Cameron Highlands District Police Chief DSP Wan Mohd Zahari Wan Busu said the victim saw the hook was crooked on the toilet door and tried to readjust its position.

“As soon as she held the hook, the victim found a small button with the words ‘on/off’, and upon checking it, found a memory card which was believed to have stored the recordings.

“The victim then informed the principal before the school management installed a CCTV in the toilet to identify the culprit,” he said when contacted here today.

He said with the hidden CCTV, the school authorities recorded the actions of the suspect, in his 20s, who entered the toilet looking for the clothes hook.

He said, following the incident, the school head lodged a report at the Kuala Terla Police Station on Friday before police detained the suspect, a final-year student in a university in Kuala Lumpur, in a house near the school.

“Early investigations found that the suspect had made three separate recordings involving three witnesses, for the duration of five minutes, and so far, only one of the victims had come forward to make a report,” he said.

He added that police were continuing investigations into the actual motive for the suspect’s actions – whether it was for personal use or to be spread on any websites with the intention of purposely causing ridicule to the victims.

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Use 'secret weapon' on hubby, says Rosmah

Women should use their "secret weapon" instead of bugging their husbands to buy them things, said Rosmah Mansor.

The wife of Prime Minister Najib Abdul Razak suggested that women employ their “soft touch” and powers of persuasion.

"Don't ask him too many things. Don't ask him 'I want this, or I want that', men do not like that, am I right? If he wants to give, he'll give it. You can hint, but don't ask and don't force them to get it for you.

"You can always persuade. We've got our secret weapon, so use it to the very best we can," she said amid a resounding applause.

Rosmah was speaking at the launch of MCA's Legal Advisory and Women's Aid Centre (Lawa), of which she is the patron.

Sharing her thoughts on relationships, she said that wives must obediently stand by their husbands, just as how she is with Najib.

They should selflessly serve their men, regardless of their profession.

"I'm sure men are not so boisterous. Don't fight them, be with them, work together with them. If they don't want to eat, you (should) still prepare their food, no matter if you're a doctor or a lawyer, you have to be there with them.

"Make sure that you stand by your husband when he needs you to stand by him, like I do," Rosmah added.

As such, she said that married couples should not be argumentative all the time, however, if it is done in moderation, slight arguments can lead to a better love life.

"After a little bit of argument and then you make up, you will find that your husband will love you a little bit better," she added as the crowd erupted in laughter.

On a more serious note, the PM's wife pointed out that education is important to ensure that boys are raised to be chivalrous.

Centre to help abused women

Meanwhile, MCA Wanita chief Heng Seai Kie said during her speech that Lawa aims to help and improve the lives of abused women.

"The rise in crime rates and household violence involving women stem from their ignorance of their own rights, as well as the lack of centres for them to seek help," she added.

She said that it was because of that, as well as with the encouragement of Rosmah, they had decided to launch this institution with 205 centres nationwide.

Lawa, she said, would be receiving help from the Royal Malaysian Police (PDRM), Bar Council and other organisations. The institution also provides Syariah and Civil legal counseling for those in need.

MCA also celebrated Rosmah birthday during the launching ceremony.

Cops on the lookout for 'topless' women in PD

 

The Negri Sembilan police are tracking down four women who had supposedly sunbathed topless on a beach in Port Dickson.

Sinchew Daily reported today that the police have confirmed receiving a report from the Port Dickson Municipal Council, and are investigating the incident under Section 294(a) of the Penal Code.

The law penalises “whoever, to the annoyance of others does any obscene act in any public place”, and is punishable by up to three month imprisonment, or a fine, or both.

Port Dickson Municipal Council (MPPD) chairperson Ab Khalid Mat said the incident is an isolated case, but MPPD viewed the matter seriously and was currently conducting an investigation, Bernama reports.

“We hope members of the public who saw incidents such as this one in any places in Port Dickson will immediately lodge a report to the authorities for further action,” he said when contacted today.

He said sunbathing topless in public places is an offence.

In the 2pm incident, the women, believed to be in their 20s and 30s, were sunbathing on a mat at the beach under the hot weather.

However a visitor, who was bathing there became aware of their behaviour and videotaped the incident, according to Bernama.

Malaysians flay sex blogger Alvin Tan for fleeing to US

Sex blogger Alvin Tan’s decision to seek asylum in the United States has drawn flak from Malaysian social media users, many of whom believe he should face up to his actions rather than flee the country.

Tan and his former partner, Vivian Lee, had been charged under the Sedition Act for uploading a bak kut teh posting during Ramadan last year, but he violated his bail conditions while on a supposed working trip to Singapore.

Tan, 26, had insisted in a recent interview with The Malaysian Insider that leaving Malaysia was “the only rational action” as he was powerless to fight “tyranny and ignorance”.

However, most Facebook users felt otherwise, noting that Tan should have been brave enough to face the consequences of the law after knowingly breaking it.

“The reason he 'tak suka Malaysia' is because he’s being prosecuted for a crime under Malaysian law. In my opinion, he deserves to be punished for his puerile acts in the past,” wrote Facebook user Josh Wu.

“He openly admitted to deceiving the courts by fleeing to the United States after Malaysian courts were kind enough to allow him to go to Singapore for some film-shooting.

“The law shouldn’t protect those who misuse the law. He who seeks equity must do equity.”

Another Facebook user, Eugene Leong, said Tan had started the entire episode with his Ramadan wishes, which he said were uncalled for.

“That was indeed a silly and stupid thing to do. Yes, he was punished by the courts. Yes, he fled Malaysia via some excuses.

“But, what I would really like to know is how he feels now, knowing that he got his mum to lose the bond money of 20k when he ran away, instead of defending himself in court!” wrote Leong.

In his interview with The Malaysian Insider, Tan had defended the post, which carried a photo of a pork dish, as political satire.

He said it had highlighted the danger of using Islam “as a basis to govern other people’s life” by legislating personal morals, without making a distinction between what is immoral and what is illegal.

Tan added that he did not believe he was a coward by seeking refuge in the US, but that he was “smart, pragmatic, calculative and mercenary”.

“When the government and its institutions decide to ruin your life and jail you for years just because you hurt their feelings, you do not sit back and try to fight the overwhelming wave of emotional, irrational force coming down on you,” he had said.

But most Facebook users dismissed this, saying his actions were cowardly and idiotic.

“I think he is humiliating himself becoz of his ego! Nothing so smart, also more like childish!” wrote Vivian V. Kulasingham.

“It’s either he is a coward or he is an idiot!!!” wrote Augustin Anthony.

They also warned Tan that he would be extradited back to Malaysia and still have to face the courts.

“Don’t be confident. Soon he will realise that he will be extradited back to Malaysia. But I really pity the girl because he left her,” wrote Mohd Shafian Noordin, referring to Lee.

Anastasia Pertiwi said Prime Minister Datuk Seri Najib Razak was well known for “covert negotiations” and a single phone call to US President Barack Obama would have Tan on the first flight back to Malaysia.

“How long can he stay there? Unless he possess the green card, else it will be deported back. Know yourself first before the enemy,” wrote Chai KL.

However, a handful of Facebook users defended Tan, with one even hailing him a “hero”.

“He is battling the political system not race and religion. Don’t be confused,” wrote Brian Low.

Clement Leong Ern said that while he did not condone Tan’s past actions, the sex blogger was “speaking sense” now.

“Bravo Alvin Tan!” wrote Rosa Rosa.

Tan and Lee are facing criminal charges under Malaysia's Sedition Act as well as the Film Censorship Act for their controversial online uploads, including a photo deemed insulting to Islam on Facebook.

They were both allowed a total bail of RM30,000 each, with two sureties, by the High Court in Kuala Lumpur in July last year. – September 28, 2014.

Alvin Tan: M’sian leaders are cowards and Nazis

Controversial sex blogger Alvin Tan breaks his silence and challenges Umno to take action against him.

PETALING JAYA: Controversial sex blogger Alvin Tan, currently on the run from the authorities, has posted a slew of insulting remarks about Malaysia’s top leaders.

Among them were Prime Minister Najib Tun Razak, Home Minister Zahid Hamidi, Inspector-General of Police Khalid Abu Bakar and Attorney-General (AG) Abdul Gani Patail.

In his Facebook page he defended his right to express himself freely, Tan said, “I’ll say whatever I damn well please.”

While likening Khalid to the Nazi SS Head Heinrich Himmler, Tan referred to Najib as a coward for allowing the sedition spree to take place “just to cling to the top post”.

He also described Zahid as the “closest thing to true evil”, and the AG as the “biggest conspirator” in all prosecutions.

Along with the insults, Tan posted a challenge to Umno that read, “So what are you going to do now?”

Explaining why he decided to break his silence even before his asylum claim was approved, Tan said keeping silent for his own benefit would have been “deeply unethical”.

He also asked, “But if people like me don’t speak up … who else is going to do it?” adding everyone in Malaysia was living in fear these days.

Reported to be seeking asylum in the United States as a “political refugee”, Tan also said that while prosecuting political opponents for saying things was “just business as usual”, charging them with sedition was like declaring war on them.

He added, “… arresting activists, lawyers, journalists, religious leaders, and even professors and ordinary people for expressing opinions on social media is like declaring an all-out war on everyone and everything that Malaysians stand for.”

The sex blogger also claimed, “It is Umno who decides what is offensive.”

Underage sex trafficking in Malaysia real, video reveals

Malaysia, which has been downgraded to Tier 3 for its lack of progress in fighting human trafficking, now has another damning piece of evidence against it in a video documentary on the underage sex trade in the capital.

The video, now on YouTube and titled "Trapped – The underage sex industry in Malaysia", is the result of two years of research by journalists Mahi Ramakrishnan and Rian Maelzer.

Mahi said she was working on another story four years ago when she stumbled upon one that was much bigger – that of underaged foreign children used in the sex trade. It shocked her, as she had never imagined that such a thing was happening in Malaysia.

"I never knew that such a thing existed in Malaysia. I mean, everyone knows that this happens in Thailand but I really had no idea that the underage sex trade was alive and well here," she told The Malaysian Insider.

"You hardly hear about it and no one really addresses it. It is really under-reported."

An investigative journalist, Mahi decided she would follow the story and began devoting many nights to visiting "dubious" areas in Bukit Bintang and Chow Kit in the capital city of Kuala Lumpur.

"I talked to everyone. I spent hours every day in these areas and these people even laughed at my face. They denied that there was such a thing."

But discussions with child rights advocate Dr Hartini Zainuddin encouraged this USA Today correspondent to pursue the story despite the challenges.

Two years later, Mahi, with the help of another journalist, Maelzer, finally finished a video highlighting the plight of underage sex workers in Malaysia and the concerns surrounding the issue.

"It took me a long time to develop friendships with brothel owners and get them to allow me to speak to their people. Finding these children who worked as sex workers was one of the biggest challenges I had to face," she added.

"I would go every day and spend time at these places, talking to them from about 11pm to the wee hours of the morning."

Another challenge Mahi had to deal with while researching the subject was to face her own fears.

"I was scared, really scared. I wasn't sure how deeply embedded the child sex trade was in Malaysia with all the syndicates and triads.

"I have two daughters myself. And it was difficult for me to come to terms that I was doing this story, as I could not help but imagine what if it had been my daughter in that position."

The 22-minute video was released on YouTube only a week ago and has so far received about 600 views.

The video features interviews with the police, child activists and psychologists and three sex workers who are underaged but seasoned in their trade. Two of them tell Mahi that they do it for the money while the other revealed that she had been tricked into prostitution after reaching Malaysia.

"We did some small screenings of the video before this and had not released the video online previously because of some concerns.

"But we did it now, not only to create awareness that such a problem actually exists but also to come up with durable solutions to it," she added.

Mahi said that the response to the video has so far been encouraging while some could not believe what they were seeing.

"Lots of people were in absolute shock. They just could not fathom that there are kids in Malaysia who are sex workers," she added.

She said that she was in the midst of getting in touch with lobby groups all over the world to show them the video.

"I am hoping that they would get in touch with Malaysian lobby groups and work together to address the problem and nip child sex trade in the bud," she said.

The United States’ annual Trafficking of Persons report in June this year downgraded Malaysia to Tier 3 for lack of compliance with minimum standards in fighting human trafficking. The report noted that there was ample evidence of forced labour and sex trafficking in Malaysia. – September 20, 2014.



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Sex crime victims under pressure

Victims of sex crime face double jeopardy in their ordeal of seeking justice from the courts. The process of getting a conviction can take toll on them and family.

GEORGE TOWN: Many sex crime cases just fade away when victims voluntarily drop out of the court trial due to intimidation by the accused, difficulty of legal process and lack of support for the victims and family members, disclosed a survey done by Penang-based Women Centre for Change (WCC).

Its chairperson for advocacy sub-committee, lawyer Lalitha Menon said the ordeal of going through the legal process, starting from police investigations, medical examinations to trial in seeking justice, would take its toll on the victims, family members and witnesses.

“It has proven to be too taxing and intimidating on them,” Lalitha told during a press conference in the WCC office here today.

She said frequent postponements of court hearing, for instance, would hinder the victims, family members and witnesses to pursue further with the case.

WCC’s survey revealed that frequent postponements would also affect the wages of the victims and witnesses.

The reputation of family, bad media publicity and threats from suspects have also caused victims and witnesses to “go missing” from trials.

In some cases, the accused has also absconded after securing bail.

All these have compelled the prosecution to often seek a court verdict of a discharge not amounting to acquittal order.

The survey also revealed that only 12 cases or four percent of the 439 sex related crime cases in Penang had resulted in guilty verdicts, while in 137 or 31% of cases the accused had pleaded guilty.

It also found 45% cases ended up with a discharge not amounting to acquittal verdicts.

“This means that if the accused choose not to plead guilty, they stand a 96% chance of being either acquitted or discharged or both,” concluded the WCC survey.

The survey was based on sex related crime court cases that took place in the island-state between 2000 and 2004.

Guidebook for victims

Findings of the survey were disclosed during a launching of WCC guidebook for sexual crime victims entitled: “Surviving Court – A Guide to Understanding the Criminal Court Process,” here today.

Also present were WCC executive director Loh Cheng Kooi, programme consultant Prema Devaraj, advocacy officer Melissa Mohd Akhir and watching brief lawyer Karen Lai.

Although the cases studied in the survey occurred early last decade, Melissa told FMT that the trend was still “more alike same” now.

Family members of two sexual-crime victims were also present to narrate their ordeal to the press. Their details and photographs could not be published due to obvious reasons.

Lalitha said most victims and family members lacked knowledge and experience in the criminal court process, leaving them feeling lost, disempowered and anxious.

She said they also lacked support from relatives, friends and lay public.

She revealed many victims were unfamiliar with court process, room setting, staff, officials, and specialized legal terms.

She said they were ill-prepared for trials and felt intimidated especially when facing their assailant and during cross examination by the defence.

She said it was ironic that the court process, which was to provide justice for victims, had often been a painful experience for victims especially when they had to relive and recount the crime during their testimony.

The guidebook was based on an earlier WCC research book “Justice for Victims of Sexual Crimes”, which highlighted the need for support and advocacy for victims during court process.

The 36-page guidebook is to help victims and other witnesses to better understand the police probe and court process in simple terms.

“Victims will be better prepared and empowered when going to court or seeking justice through the criminal court system,” said Lalitha to newsmen.

Overzealous officials on ‘khalwat’ trail

Religious departments across the country have many and varied responsibilities. Arguably one can say there are far more pressing matters than making sure couples don’t smooch.

The second issue is about the existence of these laws themselves. And just to be crystal clear they exist in Pakatan states and Barisan states too. This is not a party political issue. This is an issue about the role of the Islamic departments in the nation.

Azmi Sharom, The Star

AREN’T there more important issues to make a big deal of? Seriously, is this khalwat thing really of national interest?

First off, there is no way a non-Muslim can be charged for khalwat.

It is a syariah offence and thus simply does not apply to those who do not profess the religion of Islam.

So the incessant use of the term khalwat to describe the “offence” that these non-Muslim people have been charged with in Kelantan is inaccurate.

The term may spice the story up somewhat, but the real “offence” is that of “indecent behaviour”.

Secondly, and this is the subtext, I have seen in the reporting of this issue, is that this is a problem caused by PAS.

Come on, are our memories so short? A few years ago there was a non-Muslim couple fined for indecent behaviour or something like that in Kuala Lumpur; hardly a PAS bastion.

Therefore any attempt at making this a political party issue is totally missing the point. It is not.

The real issue here I submit is two-fold.

Firstly, it is about overzealous civil servants who obviously have taken it upon themselves to be the moral guardians, nay, moral guardian superheroes, of this country.

What can one say about such folk? Some people just love throwing what little authority they have around.

However, what is more important is the second issue which is systemic.

Fix the system, and the first problem will disappear too.

The second issue is about the existence of these laws themselves. And just to be crystal clear they exist in Pakatan states and Barisan states too. This is not a party political issue. This is an issue about the role of the Islamic departments in the nation.

Why do we have such laws in the first place?

For me, it seems a bit creepy and slightly perverted. I mean, who are these people who go lurking around parks in the dead of night?

Do they have to pass a test before they can get the job? Perhaps, they must have the ability to crawl through bushes with minimum sound. Khalwat Ninjas in other words.

Frankly, I think that this “job” is demeaning. No matter how you may couch the job description, at the end of the day, you are a peeping tom.

Looking at the responsibilities of religious departments across the country, it is obvious that there are many.

Arguably, one could say there are far more pressing matters than making sure couples don’t smooch.

For example, education is a big job for these departments, because it covers not only religious primary and secondary schools but also pre-school.

Perhaps it would be better to ensure that these institutions are not only well run and of high quality but that they also prepare their school leavers for the challenges of life in the twenty-first century.

And if you really want to nab people, I gather that a lot of divorced fathers are not living up to their end of the bargain and are escaping payment of maintenance and the like.

And what about finding new and innovative ways to improve the effectiveness of the tithe collections and distribution?

There are also research units in these religious departments and there is a plethora of subjects facing the Muslim community that could do with research.

Unemployment, corruption, substance abuse are just some of the ills faced by the Muslim community and work can be done here. And by work I mean progressive forward thinking work, not the usual knee jerk reaction of “these problems exist because people are not religious enough”.

The Islamic Studies Faculties in our public universities are huge and they produce graduates who are well versed in Islamic law, economics and theology.

There is in other words a pool of highly qualified workers who can delve into substantively trying to improve the lot of the community.

These are merely suggestions of course but I believe that with focused effort and energy much can be done to have a profound and positive effect on the community. And surely this would make these bodies far more relevant to the development of the nation.

Non-Muslims should be allowed to be indecent, says minister

(The Star) - Foreign tourists to Malaysia are worried over the recent action taken against non-Muslims for alleged indecent behaviour in Kelantan.

Tourism Minister Datuk Seri Dr Ng Yen Yen said tourists, especially those from China and Taiwan, had voiced their concern to the ministry over the matter.

“Such policy of issuing summonses on 'khalwat' should not be implemented on non-Muslims."

“Furthermore, what did they do wrong as they were together at the plane spotting area near Sultan Ismail Petra Airport, which is an open public area,” Dr Ng said after taking part in the Cuti-Cuti 1Malaysia (CC1M) Sunday bike ride event here yesterday.

Dr Ng said as a Kelantanese, she used to gather with friends and families at the spotting area near the airport in Pengkalan Chepa previously and there was no action taken on them for doing so.

She said the place was not a closed or covered area and it was by the roadside, where everybody could see what was going on at the spot.

Two men on a plane-spotting outing near the Sultan Ismail Petra Airport and a teenage couple in Tengku Anis Park were issued with summonses in October and last month respectively.

Dr Ng said the cases proved that the Islamic rules imposed by PAS were now affecting non-Muslims.

Earlier, on the Sunday Ride in Raub programme, Dr Ng said cycling activities should be self-sustainable by individuals or organisations by now.

She said the programmes had successfully achieved their targets of fostering relationship, economic activities generating, attracting tourists as well as promoting green and clean tourism.

Dr Ng said more states, including Sarawak and Sabah, had adapted the programme as selling points in the tourism industry and was seeing good economic returns.

She said other state tourism operators, too, had to play an active role in promoting the cycling programme further as it had the potential to be successful.

Singapore education minister: Sex blogger’s conduct ‘reprehensible’

The couple used the now-defunct blog to chronicle their sexual exploits.

KUALA LUMPUR, Nov 12 ― Singapore Education Minister Heng Swee Keat has described the behaviour of Malaysian sex blogger Alvin Tan, who is a scholarship student in the republic, as “reprehensible and unbecoming of a scholar”, the island state’s Straits Times newspaper reported today.

Heng was responding in Singapore’s Parliament to MPs who demanded to know what punishment had been meted out by the National University of Singapore (NUS) to Tan.

NUS has drawn public ire for its refusal to disclose how it is punishing the sex-blogging Malaysian scholar whom it found guilty of damaging its reputation.

Tan, the 24-year-old Asean scholar studying law at NUS, is at the centre of a controversy after he and his girlfriend posted in a joint blog photographs and videos of themselves having sex. He had been hauled up for disciplinary action last month.

Both sides have kept their lips tightly zipped over Tan’s punishment, with the university saying matters relating to disciplinary proceedings are confidential.

Singapore citizens, however, feel otherwise; nine out of 10 university students polled by the Straits Times newspaper saying NUS should be upfront about punishment.

Speaking in Parliament today, Heng was responding to questions from four MPs stood to ask if the Singapore Education Ministry would be asking the school to make public the punishment that it has decided on, the newspaper reported.

The MPs ― Lim Biow Chuan, Intan Azura Mokhtar, Yee Jenn Jong and Pritam Singh ― all argued that the punishments should be made known in the name of transparency.

The minister stopped short of saying what the punishment was or if the student had his scholarship terminated, the newspaper reported.

However, he said he was confident NUS took the matter seriously and would do the right thing.

Tan, a final-year law student, had apologised to NUS for “bringing disrepute” to the school but has insisted that what he did was done in his “own personal time as a private individual and not an NUS student”.

He also maintained that his action was a “victimless crime” and did not harm anyone.

The NUS student had said explicit photos and videos of himself and his girlfriend, Vivian Lee, going viral were “exciting”, according to Yahoo! Singapore.

On the site “Sumptuous Erotica”, Tan and Lee said they loved posting details of their sex life on the web “for everyone to enjoy” and that they uploaded only self-made content.

The blog has since been taken down.

Tan went to Singapore under an ASEAN scholarship in 2004 and attended Xinmin Secondary School and Raffles Junior College before he went to NUS.

He is based in Kuala Lumpur, where he has an online business. His mother helps to run a family business, while his father works in sales.

The couple also faces the possibility of criminal prosecution and jail time if convicted for exhibiting obscene material after they posted photographs and videos of themselves having sex on their blog.

Malaysian Police Commercial Crimes chief Datuk Syed Ismail Syed Azizan said recently that the authorities were considering taking action against the duo for violation of obscenity laws.

Under Section 292 of the Penal Code, the couple could be prosecuted for exhibiting obscene material.

The punishment under the law is imprisonment for a term of up to three years or a fine.

‘Cop’ handcuffs and sexually assaults boy

A 14-year-old boy was allegedly forced to receive oral sex from the man in batik shirt who claimed to be a police officer.

PETALING JAYA: A 14 year-old boy was allegedly handcuffed and forced to receive oral sex from a man claiming to a police officer on Wednesday.

The boy was said to be playing with a friend near a low cost apartment in Cheras when the suspect, who was described as dark-skinned and wearing a Batik shirt, walked up to the two.

“According to the victim, the man identified himself as a policeman and told the boys that he was a narcotics investigator,” said a police source familiar with the investigations.

The man had then asked the boys to show him where the drug hot spots were in their area, to which the unsuspecting boys volunteered to help and complied.

“The man had then molested both the boys before telling one of them to go home. He then too the victim on a motorcycle to another secluded corner,” said the source.

Away from any witnesses, the man suddenly handcuffed the boy and grabbed the latter’s private part. The suspect then forcefully performed oral sex on the boy.

“After the act took place, the man took off the handcuff and sent the victim to a nearby taman, told him to run and don’t look back,” said the source.

Following the incident, the boy went home and informed his family. A report was then lodged at the Pudu Ulu police station.

FMT understands that investigators are looking the case under Section 377B of the Penal Code for “carnal intercourse against the order of nature”.

“We haven’t got much leads yet. We’re trying to identify the suspect and find out if he is really a police officer,” said another source who admitted that the police have never encountered such a case as this before.

A photofit of the suspect is in the process of being drawn up.

Facebook rumours

Meanwhile, various sources confirmed that a Facebook status by one “Alicia Ling Horsley” which has been circulating on the issue to be inaccurate.

“My cousin saw and (bravely) interrupted a man sporting police trousers, shoes and badge receiving a BJ from 9 year old child (handcuffed and crying). A police report has been made but they are advising him to stay quiet. As a mother, I am incensed,” wrote the Facebook user.

However, when FMT contacted the “cousin”, he said that he merely heard the story from a friend, who was related to the victim, when he himself was lodging a police report.

Asked to respond to the Facebook message, a senior police officer denied that the police have told the victims to hush up about the incident.

“Stop spreading stories because it’s not helping at all. We’re not denying that there is such a case and we do not condone such acts, whether it is from a policeman or anyone at all. We’re doing the best we can and I give you my word that we will nail him.”

Malaysia and Safe Sex

Slip a condom on, in the condominium

Durex the condom maker says they’re doing just fine
As a conservative Islamic society, Malaysia frets over teenage sex and the spate of unplanned babies left on doorsteps by unwed young mothers.

But according to a survey by Durex, the condom maker, the nation lags far behind in the youthful sex stakes. Indeed, the median age of first sexual experience is at 23 the highest of all 37 countries in the survey. At 23.7 years the country’s youth are more than three years behind the lead country in early sex – Brazil at 17.3, Colombia, at 17.4 and New Zealand at 17.5.

So not only are Malaysians slow to get started having sex they, are also quite cautious about it, with no less than 54 percent using condoms for their first experience, a higher than average percentage according to “Face of Global Sex Report 2012”. By contrast among the most carefree are the New Zealanders, only 32 percent of whom use condoms in their first sexual experiences.

(Malaysia is also probably the world’s biggest single producer of condoms, churning out 2 billion condoms a year from a 3.6-hectare site in Johor, with 1,000 workers operating production lines for a company named Karex, which makes the protective sheaths for a variety of different condom companies. Karex has two more production lines, one in Klang and a second in the Thai border town of Hatyai, producing another billion or so.)

Indonesia youth rank even lower than New Zealanders, with first-experience condom use at just 27 percent but with first experience at 23.6 years. The circumstances of their first experience were probably very different from those in New Zealand and will have changed over time. The percentage of those using condoms the last time they had sex is now 54 percent in Indonesia, close to Malaysia’s 57 percent though still behind Thailand at 69 percent.

While New Zealanders start early with unprotected sex, the Brazilians start even earlier but also have the highest rate of first time condom use. With its long history of female emancipation and high level of births out of wedlock, New Zealanders clearly believe condoms can take the fun away.

Malaysians on the other hand have the lowest among Asian countries of unplanned pregnancies other than Korea. Indeed, the survey clearly shows that east Asia is a huge user of condoms with very high levels of use in first time sex in countries such as Taiwan, Japan and Korea and continuing high rates thereafter – other than in China.

Those with an aversion to condom use should head for the Czech Republic which at under 40 percent has by far the lowest rate of use in last sexual experience, and not to Canada which has the highest at almost 80 percent.

Despite the sex tourism to southern Thailand and elsewhere, Malaysia also reports a relatively low incidence of experience with Sexually Transmitted Infections – 78 percent have had no such experience. Among Asian countries only Taiwan, India and Indonesia do better although surprise surprise, France and the United Kingdom both report lower instances than Malaysia. Brazil has only slightly more at 76 percent.

Easily bottom of the infections league is Turkey where almost 50 percent have had some experience with Russia not far behind and China making a poor showing compared with Taiwan, Hong Kong and Singapore.

Quite how accurate answers may be to the various questions cannot be assessed. The 27,000 respondents varied in age between 18 and 64. Not surprisingly given the spread of HIV awareness and the availability of condoms, younger age groups were more likely to use them for their first experience. So, according to the report, men were more likely to use them than women. This imbalance implies, though the survey is mute on the topic, that many men’s first experience was with a sexual professional, not a wife or steady girlfriend. Overall those reporting they used condoms first time the majority were with a steady partner not spouse.

The survey covered not between 500 and 2,000 people in the countries assessed. Results excluded the 14 percent who said they were virgins – but the published results do not elaborate on the relative prevalence of virginity across countries and age groups. It did however not a correlation between income and condom use with the lowest income groups least likely to have used them.

Previous surveys by Durex have shown wide variations in the frequency of sex and levels of satisfaction. On one of these measures Malaysia came out well, with 76 percent reporting sex at least weekly just behind Brazil at 82 percent and Russia at 80 percent and China at 78 percent but far ahead of Hong Kong and Singapore at 62 percent and Japan at a miserable 34 percent.

In terms of enjoyment, 38 percent of Malaysians reported being satisfied with their sex lives, a moderate level well behind India at 61 percent but ahead of Hong Kong, Singapore and Japan at just 15 percent. Very generally the data suggest an inverse relationship between levels of economic development and frequency and enjoyment of sex – a useful antidote to GDP fetishism.

Experts split over review of consent age

The Star

PETALING JAYA: Experts are divided on whether the age of 16 in cases of statutory rape should be reviewed due to children maturing at a younger age.

Lawyer Edmund Bon said maturity and their understanding of sex and consent should be considered.

“The education system needs to provide advance sex education, teach children their rights, make them more assertive and help them understand what rape is and what consent means,” he said, but declined to state if he was in favour of either increasing or reducing the age of consent from 16.

Lawyer Karpal Singh said although 16 was acceptable in cases of statutory rape, the Attorney-General could study if it was necessary to lower the age.

However, senior consultant community paediatrician in Ipoh Datuk Dr Amar Singh said people should ask themselves if they would want their daughters to have sex at age 13 or 14.

“This is not about restricting their freedom but whether they are in a position to decide for themselves when older men take advantage of them,” he said.

Suhakam commissioner James Nayagam said 16 had been recognised as the age when a teenager could recognise and be responsible for sexual relations.

“Relationships between young adults and girls, especially those below 14, are not a fair playing field because when a girl is emotionally dependent on an adult, she will be more vulnerable to having sex,” he said.

Lawyer Honey Tan said it would not be wise to reduce the age limit.

“We should look at studies regarding the impact of having sex at a very young age from the physical, psychological and emotional angles,” she said.

Tan said she was concerned that judges seemed to think that young girls of 12 and 13 could consent to having sexual intercourse when they had been “socialised” to be “respectful to their elders”.

Housemaid, employer jailed for 3 months for having consensual sex

Dubai: A housemaid and her former employer were jailed for three months each for having consensual sex.

The Dubai Misdemeanour Court sentenced the Sri Lankan defendants, the 27-year-old housemaid, O.D., and her 38-year-old employer, P.H., to three months each followed by deportation.

When the defendants stood trial before the presiding judge, P.H. pleaded guilty and admitted having consensual sex.

However, O.D. told the court: "No, I did not have sex with him."

Book Review: A Thai Prostitute's Depressing Story

Don't dig too deep

Only 13: The True Story of Lon by Julia Manzanares and Derek Kent. Bamboo Sinfonia Pulications, Bangkok, Thailand. ISBN 978-974-8418-01-8. Paperback, Available through Amazon
For anybody who has ever been in a Bangkok girlie bar, what the smiling and giggling women in their spangles and bare skin have given up to get there remains hidden and out of sight. But these women, many of them no more than children, have faced lives almost before puberty that has annealed them into hardened and calculating individuals whose life is dedicated not to the befuddled westerners asking them to lap dance but to survival and finding money. It is kept well hidden, under the surface, beneath the smiles.

It is a story of exploitation on a savage and depressing scale. It has been told before, but is told again by a young woman whose name at birth was Bountah, born in the impoverished northeastern region of the country, called Isaan. Only 13: The true story of Lon, is told by authors Julia Manzanares and Derek Kent as autobiography.

Beaten repeatedly as a child, Bountah was forbidden from going to school because the family only had enough money to send the boys. She ran away from home at age 11 because her grandmother refused to let her go to school even though she had earned the money herself to go by cleaning houses in a nearby town. A troubled, rebellious child, she set out for Bangkok 500 miles away, only to be returned home. She ran away twice more before she fled to Bangkok to take a job as a waitress – at the age of 12, working from 5 am to 7 pm for Bt1,500 (US$48.50) a month.

Frequently jailed as a runaway, confined briefly in a psychiatric hospital, she fights off a would-be benefactor at the age of 13 who tries repeatedly to rape her. Finally returned to her home in Isaan yet again, she discovers her father had died in a car accident while searching for her. Her family blames her for his death. Heartbroken and overcome with guilt, she was given Bt300 by her mother and told never to return.

Thus began her life in Bangkok’s sex industry, first as a full-time cleaner in a Patpong go-go club. Changing her name to Lon, she discovered that at the age of 14, weighing 34 kg, 1.44 meters tall, she could make Bt30,000 by selling her virginity to a 50-year-old Swiss national who had come to Thailand hunting for a child – 20 times as much as she was making as a cleaner. The choice, terrifying as it was, made depressing economic sense to her.

“Why would sweet young girls want to go to (the bar where she sold herself)? “The reason is simple,” she said. “They are the result of Asian poverty – and they are not alone. Their behavior is the direct result of the low value placed on women in Thailand and throughout Southeast Asia. Even now, in this 21st century, six baby girls are abandoned every day in Bangkok. In my case, my family’s poverty, and my need to win back their love were more than enough motivation.” Terrified, she walked down the street hand-in-hand with the man, a foot and a half taller than she was. Nobody stopped the couple, including in the hotel where “the clerk looked at me,then at him, then at me again, and said nothing., A very young girl – really just a child with a grown man – must not have been too unusual a sight for her to see.”

Sadly, in Bangkok and other Thai cities and indeed throughout Asia, it is not too unusual a sight at all. “There are roughly 30,000 Thai girls in Bangkok, Pattaya, Phuket, Koh Samui and Chiang Mai who seek the tourist trade, Manzanares and Kent write. “There are tens of thousands more in the Philippines, Indonesia and Cambodia; they are the ones who have been ‘fortunate’ enough to see foreign men instead of locals. There are about 400,000 prostitutes in the brothels in Thailand, and millions more in other Southeast Asian countries who see local men for pocket change or simply to pay off family debt plus the massive interest charges that accrue.”

That began a long and depressing story. “Some clients have told me that people in Thailand are poor because they are lazy,” Lon says. “At the age when they were playing Little League, going to football games, or having wet dreams over their favorite cheerleaders, I was sleeping with GoGo customers to help support my family – for which I paid the ultimate price, the loss of myself. “

Lon would become a top go-go dancer, making a small fortune – for Thai women anyway – in the sleazy resort town of Pattaya, which, as she says, “is different from the rest of Thailand, with the exception of the tourist areas of Patpong, Nana and Soi Cowboy in Bangkok, and the islands of Koh Samui and Phuket. It was built for and thrives on sex tourists. ..Everyone in the city knows their livelihoods are dependent upon the Isaan-born bar girls attracting tourists. The unkempt beaches are littered with garbage, plastic, and animal waste; the polluted bay and the poor quality of infrastructure offer little to the tourist who seeks a tropical paradise.”

Eventually she caught the gold ring – marriage to another Swiss national and a move to Europe. It didn’t work out. Little worked out for her in fact. It is a depressing and sad book. But it illuminates a life that typifies far too much the fate of young, pretty, poverty-stricken women in too many parts of Southeast Asia.

A share of the proceeds from sale of the book is donated to organizations dedicated to aiding young girls at risk for, or who have become involved in the sex trade. If that will help to save some of them from Lon’s ordeal, it is worth buying this book.

Hubby watching porn online finds film starring his wife

An Egyptian man who went online to watch a porno film for the first time got the shock of his life when he found that the woman in the film was his own wife.

The man, identified as Ramadan, instantly collapsed in disbelief on the floor at an internet shop before coming round and rushing home to face his unfaithful wife.

The woman first denied his allegations and started to swear at him, prompting her husband to face her with the film.

Unable to deny it any more, she confessed to have betrayed him with her pre-marriage boy friend, telling him she had never loved him although they had four children during their 16-year marriage.

“I found 11 films showing my wife in indecent scenes with her lover….it was the first time I watched a porno film and I did this just out of curiosity,” Ramadan told Egyptian newspapers at his house in the northeastern province of Dakhalia.

“She first denied it and accused me of being insane before I faced her with the films…she then confessed to be still in love with her boyfriend, saying he is as young as her and that I am an old man.”

Ramadan said he had been happy during his marriage life until he logged on to that website. Newspapers did not say whether he decided to divorce her.

Ruling on Seksualiti Merdeka on March 1

The New Straits Times

KUALA LUMPUR: The government is challenging a judicial review leave application by the organising committee of Seksualiti Merdeka, who claimed that the banning of the event in November last year was illegal.

Senior federal counsel Noor Hisham Ismail said he submitted to High Court judge Datuk Rohana Yusuf in chambers yesterday that the application had become academic.

Lawyer Honey Tan, who representing  the applicants, however, disagreed, saying it was not clear how long the ban was effective.

The applicants are  members of the Seksualiti Merdeka organising committee.  They are Pang Khee Teik, 38, Angela Marianne Kuga Thas, 48, Thilaga Socky Pillai Sulathireh, 25, Siti Zabedah Kasim, 49, and Md Nor Ismat Selamat, 29.

 The court has set March 1 to deliver its decision on the leave application.

The applicants stated that deputy Inspector-General of Police Datuk Seri Khalid Abu Bakar had acted illegally when he banned all functions and events relating to Seksualiti Merdeka on Nov 3.

They also alleged that the ban directly affected the Constitutional rights guaranteed to all Malaysians.

They  added that they were not given an opportunity to be heard  before Khalid announced the ban.

In the application, they named Khalid, Dang Wangi deputy police chief Superintendent Nor Azman Muhammad Yusuf and the Inspector-General of Police Tan Sri Ismail Omar, as respondents.

Afghan woman cuts off father-in-law's private part

An Afghan woman cut off her father-in-law's penis with a knife after he tried to have sex with her, a doctor in eastern Afghanistan's Ghazni province said on Saturday.

"One day when the husband was away from home he attempted to have sex with his daughter-in-law and she cut off his penis with a knife," the doctor from a private hospital in Ghazni said on condition of anonymity.

The man went for treatment at the private hospital but was sent on to the capital Kabul for specialist treatment, he added. The incident took place two weeks ago but has only just come to light.

According to figures in an Oxfam report in October, 87 per cent of Afghan women report having experienced physical, sexual or psychological violence or forced marriage.