A Nepali Woman's Horrific Birth Ordeal

'What can I do? My Husband Needs A Son Anyhow'

Hem Kumari Chepang, 42, has conceived 26 children during the last 30 years of her life in rural Nepal. "Have as many children as you can," she says her husband, Hari Chepang, 50, told her. "I will feed you [and the children] and [if you die in the process] I will take care of your cremation."

Chepang says that when she got married at age 12 she believed that frequent births were natural. "Some died in the womb, some within a few days of their birth and some after six months," she says. Only two of Chepang's 26 infants - a son and a daughter - are alive today. Chepang says that she often had no help during labor.

"One of my sons was positioned ectopically in the womb," she recalls. "His hands came out first, and I tugged him out myself. The placenta followed, and I almost died with the pain."

After her 23rd child, she suffered from uterine prolapse, which caused regular bleeding, dizziness and pain. But she continued to give birth. Eventually, her ability to move became limited to dragging herself to the toilet.

Chepang's ordeal fortunately may be consigned to the past ion much of Nepal. The country 's fertility rate has fallen to 3.1 births per woman in 2006 from 6.3 in 1976 thanks to family-planning promotion, according to a 2009 report by the nongovernmental organization Family Planning Association of Nepal. The percentage of women or their partners using contraception rose to 44 percent in 2006 from 26 percent in 1996, according to the government's latest health survey.

But those changes are less apparent in the countryside.

"It is still a big challenge to effectively spread awareness of family planning in the rural, remote and socially backward societies of Nepal," says Aswini Rana, a counselor with the Family Planning Association of Nepal. "There is a dearth of family planning services, methods and devices at the health posts."

Chepang's village in the Dhading district is less than three hours by car to Kathmandu, where family planning and maternal care services are abundant. But she says her husband once had to carry her for more than an hour to reach a health post.

Dr Kiran Regmi, director of the Family Health Division under the Department of Health Services, says Chepang's story is an exception and that family planning awareness is increasing in Nepal. "We have started to promote appropriate methods of family planning targeted towards those who do not understand and are hence averse to surgical measures of family planning," she says.

Family planning services used to be available only in the Kathmandu Valley, according to the government's health survey. But since 1968, the government has expanded the Nepal Family Planning and Maternal Child Health Project to all districts.

Sagar Dahal, the Family Health Division's senior public health administrator, says the government has initiated guidelines to further expand family planning services in rural areas. "This will take about six to seven months," he says.

The government believes that the radio is the most popular way to transmit family planning messages in rural areas, but women say they still can meet cultural resistance. Sarita Tamang, 27, from Chepang's district, says her body is tired after giving birth to three daughters. But she says that women in her village, who usually deliver at home, are too shy and embarrassed to go to the local health post to obtain contraceptives, which she learned about on the radio.

"What can I do?" she asks. "My husband has said that he needs a son anyhow."

Chepang says she also learned about an operation to prevent future pregnancies on the radio but that her husband told her that showing her private parts to others was shameful.

But then Kiran Gautam, assistant inspector general of the police, heard Chepang's story on the radio, thanks to a youth in Chepang's village, and offered to pay for the operation.

"Seeing a woman, who is barely 50, in such a state and knowing how she was compelled to lead this life of pain, I realised that the status of women in Nepal is still very lamentable," he says.

Chepang's uterus was surgically removed last year. "I had given myself up for dead and never believed that I could lead a normal life ever again," Chepang says, smiling. "I feel like I have been given a new lease to life by God himself."

Chepang now promotes family planning. "Sasu-aama [mother-in-law] has advised me not to have more than two children," Chepang's daughter-in-law, Sharmila, says shyly.

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